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Sometimes it could feel awkward to be able to open up to people, especially when they are people you are familiar with, such as your friends and family. It’s normal to feel anxious about what people will think about you, and it’s also normal to be scared to upset those you love and think it might affect the relationship between you and them.
Some people may think it’s easier to open up to people you know, like your friends and family; while others might think it’s more comfortable to talk to people they are not as familiar with, such as professionals like doctors and therapists. There’s no wrong or right in, either way, the point is whenever you feel like you need support, you can reach for the help you need.
Below are the tips for opening up a conversation about topics of your emotions:
Find a way of communication that you are comfortable with
Maybe you prefer to have a face-to-face conversation, perhaps you are more comfortable with phone calls or Zoom, or perhaps you are better with texting. Find a communication method that works best for you and make sure the environment is comfortable for you. You never want to force yourself to open up to people while you are not feeling great inside.
Find a suitable time for you to talk
There might not be a “right time” to talk, but a quieter environment might overall make one’s feel better other than a place that is loud and disturbing.
Stay calm and know what you want to say
Opening up could be sentimental to you, but it’s important to not be too emotional when talking to your listener so they could understand you. It’s normal to practice what you want to say, such as taking notes and keywords or phrases like “I’m not feeling like myself lately.” (Mind, 2017).
Be honest, and make your behavior congruent to what you feel
(HealthyPlace, 2022)
You might feel weird to say something too personal, but when something is seriously affecting your life, you should be honest when opening up. This is the only way to make your listener understand what you are experiencing inside.
Offer more information or examples
This could be personal for you, but it’s important to always remember that your listener doesn’t know what exactly is going on in your life and they might relate that much. To be clear about your feelings, it’s helpful to give them more content. However, if the experience is too triggering for you, you can also find quotes from books or shows to share your emotions easier.
Suggest things that they can help (Mind, 2017)
This is one of the most essential tips because your listeners are not-minded readers. Be honest about what difficulties you’re facing and share ways that your listener can help you. It could be emotional support or practical help, or it could be both!
Don’t expect too much in one conversation (Mind, 2017)
A problem can’t be solved in a straightforward conversation and understanding requires time. Don’t be too upset when your listener doesn’t react as you expected because they might be shocked and needs time to proceed with your words and what you could do is give them time. If possible, try to get back to the conversation next time, this will always give you more opportunities to explain more about what you are experiencing.
Opening up could be a difficult task, but to become a better version of yourself, try to find the most comfortable way to step out of your comfort zone and seek the help you need :)
Works Cited
“How to Open up and Reveal Yourself to Others.” HealthyPlace, 2 Feb. 2022,
https://www.healthyplace.com/relationships/healthy-relationships/how-to-
open-up-and-reveal-yourself-to-others.
“Talking about Your Mental Health Problem.” Mind, Dec. 2017,
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-
services/seeking-help-for-a-mental-health-problem/talking-to-friends-family/.
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