In a world fueled by productivity and constantly spending hours of your life devoted to work- it is easy to lose track of taking time for yourself and being compassionate to yourself when you need a break. Life revolves around more than just work- factors such as family life or even something petty as friendship drama may be taking a toll on your mental health. Even if there isn’t anything directly affecting your mood- your brain may be producing sad hormones, and at that point, it is out of your control to push through that for the sake of productivity or appearing happy to the people around you if that does not reflect your true mental state. You are not in the wrong if you are not in the best mental state, and neither are you alone. Nevertheless, you are in control of taking time out of your day to check in with yourself and treat yourself with kindness to muster any sense of positivity out in a dark headspace.
When you feel things getting rough, it is important to put things in perspective. The only way you can do this is if you step back from what may be bothering you. It may be as simple as taking a night out for yourself, working out and doing skin care, and other activities of that type. Any activity that will help you to destress as well as have some time to yourself away from the problem is what you should be partaking in (as long as it is not harmful). This way, when you come back to the problem, you will not be blanketed in it and you will be able to see it from an outside perspective. However, a larger problem may not be able to be fixed with one night of skin care. In these situations, it is important to remember that no matter how large something is, absolutely nothing is permanent. Nothing is worth you giving up your pleasure and time as everything tumultuous will pass.
Another thing to remember is that if you do not take a break and you are pushing yourself in terms of your work limits, your body and physical health will reflect that. Everyone has different limits- but nobody is immortal and immune to everything. Once your body starts to reflect the mental pressure you may be facing- this is a sign that it is time to take a break otherwise you may incur a health problem that will prevent you from taking part in work and hobbies- which will lead to a cycle of deteriorating mental health.
Although it is important to take time for yourself- this does not justify wallowing in your emotions for extended periods of time. Working through your emotions will help you progress, but wallowing will not. It is not necessary to build a game plan immediately after you experience stress in some form. It is not necessary to wake up the next day and party the minute after you get broken up. However, if something is not permanent then neither should the sadness over it be. Additionally, escaping, suppressing, and ignoring your problems rather than just taking a step back and coming back to them with a more rational approach is not constructive either.
Overall, you are justified in your feelings and while it may seem daunting right now, they will pass. If you remove yourself from a daunting situation for a bit, you may approach it with less fear the second time around.
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